First couple:
The women who had undergone Gastric bypass surgery. She needs to seek more therapy for her self-esteem issues and the sexual abuse she endured during childhood.
Being overweight women, I’m a big believer in the body positive and love movement.
The Body Positive- teaches people how to overcome conflicts with their bodies so they can lead happier, more productive lives. We are dedicated to inspiring youth and adults to value their health, unique beauty, and identity so they can use their vital resources of time, energy, and intellect to make positive changes in their own lives and in the world. http://thebodypositive.org/
it took me a long time to be confident and love myself. When a woman is overweight she believes that once she loses weight all her problems will be solved. For these women, she believed this as many women do, it’s not true. She was actually more depressed now that she was thinner than she was overweight. I also think that’s why her boyfriend was less attracted to her. Every man has a type just like every woman does and some men love the luscious ladies. They got together when she was bigger and now that she was smaller he was less interested. She does not have a strong sense of self because her low self-esteem.
My main goal for becoming couples and sex therapist is to help others overcome sexual shame and repression, and by support the sex-positive movement. Here are the definitions.
Sexual Shame and Repression- is a state in which a person is prevented from expressing his or her sexuality. Sexual repression is often associated with feelings of guilt or shame being associated with sexual impulses. What constitutes sexual repression is subjective and can vary greatly between cultures and moral systems. Many religions have been accused of fostering sexual repression.
The Sex-Positive Movement –is a social movement which promotes and embraces sexuality with few limits beyond an emphasis on safe sex and the importance of consent. Sex positivity is "an attitude towards human sexuality that regards all consensual sexual activities as fundamentally healthy and pleasurable, and encourages sexual pleasure and experimentation. The sex-positive movement is a social and philosophical movement that advocates these attitudes. The sex-positive movement advocates sex education and safer sex as part of its campaign." The movement generally makes no moral distinctions among types of sexual activities, regarding these choices as matters of personal preference.
The second couple:
The woman who was pre-menopausal and husband that wanted to watch her have sex with other men. This woman referred herself a “conservative prude”. Nor did this couple discuss sex or their desire (sexual repression and shame). If they had just communicated in the beginning they would have found that their fantasies aliened.
To her husband, what I have learned from my line of work I would define him as a cuckold. What I have noticed about cuckolds from my work is that they either are unable to please their SO (significant other) or have a small penis. In their fantasies, they like to watch their SO cheating with men with bigger penises. They either want to be a voyeur or forced to watch. They also like to hear their SO say how much better this that person is at pleasuring them. This is just my observation and my opinion. They fantasize about this scenario because when having “normal” sexual relations they feel shame and humiliation about not being able to please their SO. The only times they become aroused is in the state of mind of humiliation. It is there that the fantasy grows as all fantasies do.
Third couple:
The husband who was afraid of his wife’s vagina.FEMINIST RANT
Ever notice how all monsters in movies kinda look like a vagina. The face hugger from alien, brain bug Starship Troopers, Predators mouth, The Eye from the Lord of the Rings and many in Star Trek and Wars. The horror movie Teeth, about a girl with a vagina with teeth (Vagina dentate). My point MEN FEAR VAGINA!!!
Next the wife needs to put her foot down and say “I’m not giving unless I receive”. I hate this genital double standard. Not only do are women EXPECTED to shave down there; we have to smell and taste good too. You’re hairy sweaty balls are so appealing and you guys taste so good (that was sarcastic if you couldn’t tell).
The husband stated that if she wanted to be intimate she needs to start it. Intimate initiation goes both ways buddy.
Feminist rant over.
He has other issues he needs to seek therapy for, his father’s abusive behavior towards his mother and him. The wife is not helping by not being understanding and so argumentative.
To the therapist:
As we discussed in class suggesting toys and props isn’t going fix everything. Something’s she did where good she did get the couples to open up and be sexually honest with each other. To be honest the only couple I can see surviving is the premenopausal women and her cuckold husband. They were the only couple that I saw real improvement in behavior. In the beginning, she stated that she would be fine with never having sex again. By the end, I could see their connection as a couple was stronger. They overcame their sexual shame and repression, and actually accepted each other sexually (Differentiation). Maybe the other couples could last if they had more than just a week of therapy.
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