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When the professor first told me about this class she said it may be a little intimidating because the students will know more of the clinical and therapy aspects, and yet you will know more of the actual sex. I have learned so much through all the books, projects, presentations, videos, and my classmates. This class really helped me learn about how to treat my future clients with sex related issues not just the everyday couple relationship issues, but how to deal with actual sex offenders. Before this class I wanted my specialty to just be helping individuals with sexual dysfunctions and couples therapy. This class has helped me realize that I also want to specialize in paraphilic disorders and paraphilias in general. I really want to not only help the individuals but also their partners and families through any troubles they may face. Overall whatever my profession may be in the future be it couples and sex therapist, sex educator, or sexologist, the things I learned in this course will always be applied to my work and life. This class really is life altering so thank you so much Professor.        

Best Blogs

So last class Professor told us to pick our three favorite blogs among our classmates. It so hard to just pick three so the blogs that stuck out to me were as follows

Kyle’s was the most professional

Sarah and Danas had the most heart and emotion

Brittany had a lot of fun links

Carey really related our class to current events

Sex Game

So for our final Lauren, Emily, and I decided to do a sexually based game. After lots of discussion we decide on our own version of trivial pursuit. The name of the game is “Don’t Yuck My Yum” which is a Sex-Positive culture awareness trivia game. We all contributed questions to each category, Emily and I wrote the proposal, and Lauren with her awesome art skills did the box and cards. Lots of hours and hard work was put into the game and we thought we were taking the easy way out of the final. Our game is all about promoting sex positive culture and to prevent yourself and others from yucking others yum through sexual education. Through our categories we debunk myths, recall sex history, see how other cultures and societies view sex and know the different types of gender and sexuality identities, revealing shocking facts about our sexual bodies, and how sex is portrayed in the media today. All in all as much work, as is, was it was fun to work with Lauren and Emily again, and I think it was very educational and eye opening for us as well. We hope you enjoy “Don’t Yuck My Yum”      

Child Sexual Abuse Survivors

Last week’s presentation was very moving. Of course, it was educational and informative. The video they showed to the girl who was a survivor was very emotional. Hearing her talk about her struggles not only overcoming the assault but feeling guilty for what it did to her family. How her mother was coping and I could tell that now the girl is coping better than her mother is which shows just how strong she really is.

The treatment video was very emotional as well I must say Priscilla did so well portraying her charter it was so heartfelt. But what stuck out most to me was Kyle was so supportive of her and he comforted her, it really warmed my heart.

Elderly interview

The elderly interview was enlightening in that I learned a lot about my interviewee then I had ever known. She was amazing women of her time. For 50’s and 60’s to be a women in the workforce let along a mother was big deal and to get a divorce was unheard of. But she overcame many oppressions her lack of sexual education, her cheating husband, and years without significant other. We will never truly understand what it was like to live during the great depression, WWII, the TV dinner 50’s and sexual revolution of 60’s. We can only go by what the elderly and the baby boomers tell us. However they will never understand what it’s like to be born into the AID’s epidemic and 9/11. But we need to learn from each other and grow. The women of my family were all a part of great feminist time my great mother was a flappers and my mother was a flower child. I like to think this is another great time for feminism and the world is changing its views and I believe it’s all for the better…at least I hope…   

LGBTQ

LGBTQ
I think the most important thing is to always use the right pronouns and to also let you client know that if you are of a different sexuality or gender of course you don’t know how they feel but that you do want to help. Some of the things in the video really bothered me there was one part where one of the therapists was talking about how homosexual have a different relationship and can’t understand marriage. :/  I’m gonna say that maybe because this video is clearly from the 90’s hopefully his views have changed. My heart was broken during the fake session when that man talked about how his parents always told him it was wrong, and how he felt because he wasn’t attracted to women and had crushes on men that he was sick in some way. I just wanted to hug him in and tell him everything was ok and there’s is nothing wrong with you that it’s our society that wrong.  

My group’s presentation on paraphilias

Two weeks ago we presented on paraphilias what a topic. I work with many individuals who have paraphilias so I’m pretty used to hearing about it on a daily basis. We divide the work up and I did the wiki, so very sorry it was in-depth and long. Unlike the other groups, we didn’t have just two or three disorders we had paraphilias themselves, the DSM big 8, and hypersexuality (Along with the most taboo subject of all the presentations). But did that stop us NOOO!!! I had so much working with Lauren and Emily on this project they taught me so much about the MFT program to so thanks, girlies. Researching for the wiki was not a boring task I must tell I’m fascinated by atypical sexual behavior and I want my specialty to be helping people with these disorders and atypical sexual behavior in general. I thought I already knew a lot about paraphilias boy was I wrong. I learned so much from researching this topic some of my favorite facts that I found were:
-the research on pedophiles brains, how different they form a healthy brain
-gold star pedophiles and the scene from the movie the woodsman-if you haven’t watched please do, for second you think “baby girl run from this monster before it’s too late” and to him the whole movie he’s been trying to be a gold star pedophile and you think he is finally going to give in and then when she tells him about how she sits on her daddy’s lap. At that moment, everything changes he knows he was close to giving in to temptation and he feels for his almost victim.”  
- That shoes and feet are the most common fetish
-  The Necrophilia and zoophilia (bestiality) are not only legal in some states, but most of those states are against gay marriage.
- That all the bathroom play paraphilias are all legal …I have a sanitation issue with that one
 - one of my favorites thing to do when teaching is to make sure that you know the difference between terms because if we are going to work with clients that have these paraphilias and we use the wrong lingo they could be insulted just like we discussed last week with LGBTQ clients). This is why I added all the Know the difference areas of the wiki.
I also read through your guys blog on our presentation and I just wanted to thank you so much for saying how you found it informative and one of the best presentation yet. I also noticed a lot of you said that this opened your eyes to many things and especially on how to deal with clients with paraphilias. And thank you for the shout outs to Scott, I really hope thing work out for him and Court. :)